Not just the chicken that are legends

 Busy day for Reilly today means busy day for mammy but we’ve met some legends on the way.  

First there was the fabulous young lady working in Cramlington Sainsburys who kept my shopping while Reilly ran across filling up cups in the cafe and attempting to pour old ladies teas.  When I went back to thank her she said its ok I’m autistic too.  She was brilliant and we had a chat about how she’d had great support growing up and how well she was doing.

I then did a bus trip to Newcastle, fab bus driver on the X9 at 15.00 who knew Reilly – no sooner were we off we were back on another on the X8 at 15.30 in the next stand with an equally brill driver  ūüėā I needed some kwells by the time I got back to our stop.  No tuts from the queue either when he pushed straight to the front and up the stairs. Result. Bonus point was that I got to sit down for an hour in transit. 

  
Next stop was Annitsford McDonalds, now I spend more time in here than I like to admit.  Reilly is guaranteed to eat here  which is rare, sometimes he goes behind the counter as he’s obsessed with the McFlurry machine luckily we have a friend Rebecca that works there who is fab with him.  Today the Shift Manager came to my rescue, Ashleigh.  I was super flustered ordering his meal he was trying to spin the cookie cabinet and being generally impatient we know he doesn’t do queues.  I have to try keep one hand on him to stop him escaping or running into the kitchen as well as the usual stuff. 
Ashleigh gave Reilly a cookie and a toy to keep him occupied and told us to go sit down and she would bring over our stuff when it was ready.  Turns out Ashleigh has an autistic sister and knows exactly the kind of pressure you’re under just trying a simple trip to McDonald’s.  We chatted about awareness, how it was for autistic children years ago, Reillys blog and difficulties that parents face and it made me feel so much more relaxed for future visits.  

A bit of understanding goes a long way, things that you probably won’t give a second thought to and do naturally without the need for a back up plan, everyday things I mean have you ever been out with your ASD child without a wingman and needed the toilet. A child who is sensitive to sound, smell etc. No way never happening,  be like trying to shove my size 8 feet into a size 2 shoe getting them in the cubicle alone. Then there’s the keeping one foot on the door to stop escapes, (if it’s more than a leg stretch away you’re screwed) amid ear drum shattering screams.  It’s not the best. Understanding from staff make these visits so much easier. That’s part of the reason we set up Alphabetically Autistic we want to educate big business in how important it is to view autism through the Parent and Childs eyes. How they can make a difference. 

Finally we’ve been to the park en route home where I met a lovely couple with their autistic nephew, it’s so important to educate our NT kids while they are young to be accepting of autism and not be afraid of stimming or shrieking.  Just accept there are differences, they are all kids and all have the right to play without the stares. Top marks to Evie, Amber and Ellie for doing just that today. 

Right where’s my bed….. 

  

Cramlingtons got talent 

Today was a strange one. This morning was normal Reilly emptied a full huge bottle of Bold 2 in 1 into the washer, emptied a tub of gravy granules and a packet of oats over Miss Rabbit, put my shoes in the paddling pool then proceeded to have THE biggest meltdown I’ve ever seen. ¬†This one involved screaming at the top of his voice and trying to get his foot stuck in the letterbox. ¬†The neighbours must honestly think we are crackers. ¬†This was the type of episode where it does not matter what I do or say it’s got to run its course so all I can do is make sure he’s safe.

 

After approx 45 minutes calm was restored and I needed to get out the house. I ventured out to the softplay at Concordia in Cramlington, Shane was already there at the bowling alley with Ellis and his friend. ¬†The lady on reception was an absolute diamond. ¬†She gave me tons of info on ¬†how and what was available to Reilly via Active Northumberland. ¬†Unfortunately Reilly wasn’t interested in softplay one bit and saw the clip and climb as a much better focus for his attention, trying to get a foot on to scale the massive walls with no fear what so ever. ¬†The staff in there again were fantastic and also gave me details of autism activities such as trampolining etc. ¬†I love it when staff are understanding and make us feel welcome it makes such a difference.

I had no idea what Reilly would think of the bowling alley it’s quite dark and noisy but again he loved it, had to be retrieved from half way down the lanes and attempted to get his legs in the bowling ball dispenser but other than that he was happy. Result.

We nipped across to McDonalds with the boys but the play area was closing. ¬†I had a quick chat with a lovely girl called Rachel and explained Reilly had been in with school 2 weeks previous and that he would expect to go in again because well that’s just what he does. Rachel allowed us in on our own and pulled down the shutters half way. ¬†This equalled 1 happy Reilly which equals 2 less stressed parents. ¬†We chatted to Rachel and Manager Michael while eating and they were incredibly inquisitive as to how they could be more helpful to families with autism. What a difference a bit of understanding makes to our little families.

      What a stark contrast to the bad experience we had when I first started this blog.  I feel like autism acceptance is growing.

Well done Cramlington keep it up. ‚≠źÔłŹ